The Limits of Reading Body Language
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Body language can offer useful clues, but it is not a reliable substitute for a clear, spoken answer. People freeze, smile out of nervousness, or stay still for reasons that have nothing to do with genuine willingness, which makes guessing a genuinely risky habit to lean on. It is a habit that grows stronger the more it is practised.
Words remove the guesswork entirely from a moment that deserves clarity. A simple, direct question invites an honest answer and gives the other person an easy way to say no, rather than relying on them to somehow signal it through behaviour alone in a hard moment. This becomes second nature once it is genuinely understood by both people.
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