Compliance Is Not the Same as Consent
Going along with something out of fear, pressure, or a desire to avoid conflict is not the same as choosing it freely. Compliance can look like agreement from the...
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Support comes first.
If you need help now: 1800RESPECT, 1800 737 732, any time. This campaign follows safe messaging practice throughout.
- Calm, plain language
- No graphic detail
- Nothing you choose here is stored
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Where to turn
Different services exist for different kinds of moments, and it is completely fine not to know straight away which one fits. Choose the answer that feels closest. You can change it at any time.
Nothing you choose here is stored or sent anywhere. It only changes the order of the services on this page.
Every service is listed below. Choose an answer to see a gentle place to start.
1800RESPECT
Any timeA good place to startA national counselling service offering confidential support, any hour of the day or night, for anyone affected, whether directly or as a supporter standing beside them.
Lifeline
24 hoursA good place to startCrisis support for anyone in Australia experiencing a personal crisis, offering a calm, listening voice whenever things feel overwhelming or hard to carry alone.
Kids Helpline
Ages 5 to 25A good place to startA free, confidential counselling service for children and young people aged 5 to 25, covering anything that is troubling them, big or small.
13YARN
Any hourA good place to startA national crisis support line for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people, offering a culturally safe space to yarn with someone who understands.
Emergency
Immediate dangerA good place to startIf someone is in immediate danger, right now, calling 000 is always the right step to take.
- Also available, any time
These are national services with trained people on the other end. They are not run by this site. Numbers shown are the services' own published contact details. In an emergency call 000.
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A quiet minute
Simple grounding techniques, like slow breathing or noticing five things around you, can help settle a racing mind during a stressful moment.
Go at your own pace. You can stop at any time, and nothing here is timed or scored.
When you are ready, press begin. There is no rush.
If you feel unsafe or overwhelmed, you can stop at any time. 1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732 and Lifeline is on 13 11 14, both available any hour. Read more in Grounding Techniques for a Calmer Mind.
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The shelves
210 evergreen explainers on consent, respect, support and where help exists, arranged on eight shelves. Open a shelf to see where it begins.
01Bystander skills26 reads
Safe, practical ways to step in, check in and look out for each other.
- What Being an Active Bystander Means
- The Four Ways to Step In Safely
- Distraction as a Bystander Tool
- When to Delegate to Someone Else
02Healthy relationships26 reads
Respect, trust, boundaries and honest communication in everyday life.
- What Everyday Respect Looks Like
- Trust as the Foundation
- Building Healthy Communication Habits
- Disagreeing Without Disrespect
03Prevention education27 reads
How respect is taught and modelled at home, at school, at work and in clubs.
- What Prevention Education Really Means
- Prevention Starts With Everyday Respect
- Teaching Respect From an Early Age
- Prevention Through Healthy Communication
04Rights and reporting basics26 reads
General information about rights, choices and support. Every choice is personal. This is not legal advice.
- Everyone Has the Right to Feel Safe
- What Reporting Can Involve
- Reporting Is a Personal Choice
- Bringing a Support Person Along
05Self care for supporters26 reads
Looking after yourself while you look after someone else.
- Why Supporters Need Care Too
- Recognising Compassion Fatigue
- Setting Boundaries as a Supporter
- Debriefing Safely After Supporting Someone
06Supporting someone27 reads
What to say, what to avoid, and how to be a steady presence over time.
- What to Say When Someone Confides in You
- Words to Avoid When Someone Opens Up
- Believing Someone Without Judgement
- Patience Is a Form of Support
07Understanding consent26 reads
What consent means, and how to ask and listen clearly.
- What Consent Really Means
- Consent Is an Ongoing Conversation
- Why Silence Is Not Consent
- You Can Withdraw Consent at Any Time
08Where help exists26 reads
The national services, what they offer, and what to expect when you reach out.
- There Is Always Somewhere to Turn
- What 1800RESPECT Offers
- What Lifeline Offers
- What Kids Helpline Offers
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Start here
- Supporting someone
Supporting a Colleague With Care
Workplaces are not always the easiest setting for a deeply personal conversation, but a colleague may still choose to confide in you regardless. Privacy and quiet...
- Healthy relationships
Supporting Each Other's Independence
Healthy relationships make room for each person to maintain their own interests, friendships, and sense of self outside of the relationship itself, without conflict....
- Supporting someone
Words to Avoid When Someone Opens Up
Questions like why did this happen or are you sure can feel like doubt, even when that is not the intention behind them at all. In a vulnerable moment, these questions...
- Bystander skills
Bystander Action Online
Bystander action is not limited to physical spaces, it matters online too, whether that means reporting harmful content or gently checking on someone who seems...
- Self care for supporters
Gratitude Practices for Supporters
Taking a moment to notice what is going well, even amid a difficult stretch, can offer supporters a small but genuine lift in mood. It protects your own capacity to keep...
- Supporting someone
Believing Someone Without Judgement
Believing someone when they tell you something difficult is one of the most protective things you can possibly offer them. It does not require you to have all the...
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How this is written
Every article here is a calm, evergreen explainer. The library talks about support, consent, respect and prevention, and it keeps the way to help in view on every page.
- Help firstThe national support lines sit at the top and foot of every page.
- No graphic detailNothing here describes harm. The focus stays on what helps.
- No numbers about harmNo statistics and no personal stories of harm, by design.
- Your choices stay with youThe help finder and the quiet minute run in your browser. Nothing is stored or sent.
This site reports on the subject. It does not provide counselling, legal advice or emergency assistance.
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Part of the ends. network
A family of campaign sites that share one plain idea: name a problem clearly, then keep the focus on what helps it end.
