Standing With Someone, Not for Them
Launch library · evergreen read
Standing with someone means supporting their own choices and voice, rather than taking over the situation or speaking on their behalf without asking first. This holds true whether the group is familiar or made up of strangers. This becomes easier with a little preparation and practice beforehand. This is worth practising even in situations that feel relatively low stakes.
Asking what they want, and following their lead even in a tense moment, respects their autonomy while still making clear that they are not facing it alone. It reflects care for the wider group, not just one person alone. This is a habit that grows stronger with each small step taken. It builds the kind of confidence that grows the more it is used.
1800RESPECT is on 1800 737 732, and Lifeline is on 13 11 14, both available any hour for anyone reflecting on this kind of support. Reaching out is always a reasonable step to take, whenever you feel ready. Support is there for exactly as long as you happen to need it. These services exist precisely for moments like this one.